The Beauty of a Woman

THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN
Dr. Lawrence Emwosa Osifo

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THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN
By; Dr. Lawrence Emwosa Osifo

Scriptural quotations are from different Versions of the Holy Bible; and in certain cases, they are the author’s own paraphrases as led by the Holy Spirit.

First printing, August 1996
Second edition; September 2020
Third printing – May 2021
Present Edition – January 2023

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CONTENTS page
Preface 4
Chapter one – 5 – 10
– Why, how, and what about beauty.
The Beauty of a Woman
Chapter two – 11 – 32
The make-up of beauty
A woman, Cleanliness
Compassionate communication, Sound mind
Charity
Active love – Commitments
Chapter three – 33 – 38
Responsibility Companionship and Hospitality
Love Charm – Careful and Caring
Chapter Four – 39 – 58
– Obedience; Agreement
Why Is Your Agreement Necessary?
Submissiveness is beautify
-Tactful Interactions; and Yielded Spirit.
Chapter five – 59 – 64
Abiding In Christ; Praying Removes Worries.
Chapter six – 65 – 74
Forever Beautiful Woman; – The Transformer Women; and “The Grace to Love”
Chapter seven – 75 – 80
How to win a husband; How to retain your husband; Counsel for the Adolescents
Note: – 80
PREFACE
THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN
By
Dr. Lawrence Emwosa Osifo
This book is specifically for the woman and generally for the Christian; as the bride of Christ; and those who love the truth.
This edition is rearranged completely with the addition of some new facts and revelations, as a result of the high demands for it; by many women and men who have been immensely blessed by the book.
Prayerfully, I believe that this edition shall be a blessing to many more persons and homes.

Published by:
EMWOSA WORLD OUTREACH PUBLICATIONS
No. 23A, Isibor Street, Off Stadium Road,
Benin City – Nigeria
PHONE: 08027892423; 09127889067
aghatemwosa@gmail.com
 
THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN
By
Dr. Lawrence Emwosa Osifo
This book is specifically for the woman and generally for the Christian; as the bride of Christ; and those who love the truth.
This edition is rearranged completely with the addition of some new facts and revelations, as a result of the high demands for it; by many women and men who have been immensely blessed by the book.
Prayerfully, I believe that this edition shall be a blessing to many more persons and homes.

CHAPTER ONE
WHY, HOW, WHAT ABOUT BEAUTY?
Whoever wishes to get the best; – blessings, inspirations; plus the accompanying healings, peace and joy out of reading this interesting title; must personally ask; and answer the questions; “why?”, “how?” and “what?” about the beauty of a woman.
Why do I have to be beautiful as a spinster? Why do I have to be ever beautiful as a woman? What do I need to be beautiful? How can I as a lady be attracted to an admirer? How can I as a wife be ever beloved to my husband?
How can He who has fashioned me in His likeness and image approve me?
What must I do to win a suitor as a lady? What shall I do to remain attractive to my husband?
What shall make me forever acceptable to my God?
What will happen to me; as a lady when the now solid and pointed breasts become flat, fallen and sleeping?
Who do I need to appear beautiful to; as a lady?
When I do not make-up my face will anyone still see beauty in me?
What will be my fate; and how will I appear; when wrinkles begin to set on my now smooth face? When I become old; will I still be attractive or related to as beautiful?
These and various other questions you will need to answer as you read through this exciting and inspiring book.
My aim is; using the Word of God to teach every woman and man how to be forever beautiful before man and God.
Also; to all that are interested; this book explains “the natural beauty of a woman”.
Generally, the teaching is; the real concept of beauty that will make both the physical and the spiritual woman ever attractive to all.
Specifically, I have used the Christian-Christ relationship to explain the Wife-Husband relationship; – how the single lady can attract a suitor; and a wife remains ‘ever beautiful’ to her husband.
For instructions; this book is designed for marriage counseling – to educate:

1. The unmarried persons; – to guide them on how to recognize a good life mate and to make a pleasant choice.
2. Both the newly wedded; and the old marriages; teaching them how they can avoid crises and crashing out of the institution.
3. The old and young Christians; instructing them that every Christian is a bride of Christ; therefore; they should be beautifully attractive always.
4. The old troubled marriages; encouraging and helping them to live; in peace and love; as ordained by God.
5. Every being; enlightening them on God’s laid down pattern for effective and fruitful Christian – Christ relationships.
   Many homes and individuals have problems that have defied all known human solutions. There are homes that are really monetarily rich, but devoid of peace and joy. There are individuals that have tried to make success, but have always failed to receive God’s approval.
   There are homes that suddenly get divided. There are spinsters that have always been disappointed. There are Christians that are not fruitful.
   The root causes of these troubles and problems are simply the absence of beauty in the marriage and in the individual lives concerned.
   When a woman is ever beautiful to her husband, their relationship will ever remain peacefully intact. As long as a person is beautiful before God, he attracts divine favors.
   THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN
   Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on of apparel. But let it be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable jewel of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 1st Peter 3: verses 3 to 4
   The word of God is saying from the verses quoted above that the beauty of a woman resides in her heart. It is an incorruptible pearl of a quiet and gentle spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. What makes the woman attractive lays more in her spirit being than what is visible on her shape. “The beauty of a woman” is; the combination of both the physical and spiritual constituent of the female being which make her lovable, admirable, desirable, acceptable, and sought-after; by the man; no matter her physique.
   The sheep, goat, lion, dog, and the bull are all four-footed animals. But there is something in a sheep that makes it more admirable, attractive, lovable; and acceptable by the shepherd. The sheep is meek, gentle, obedient, and it provides meat and wool for the husbandman. The beauty of a woman is of both her exterior attractiveness and her heart purity. From the abundance of the heart are the issues of appreciation and love. – (Personal phrase)
   Love is a function of human character, traditionally and often referred to as; Charity. These include courtesy, kindness, obedience, submissiveness, etc. Possession of these virtues and the exhibitions of like characters; qualify the woman as beautiful. The beauty that the woman should present to any person; is her good conduct, passionate peaceful companionship, sound speeches, faith in God, etc. The beauty that any man would like to see in a woman is her gracefulness, friendliness, cleanness, purity, love and commitment to God. The beauty of a woman – a worthy mother, and a good wife, is:
6. Not defined by her wealth; but her ability to subject money and enthrone her creator.
7. Not her outward adornment; but the inner peace she enjoys.
8. Not the number of men she is able to win by her outward adornment; but the one husband she is able to keep.
9. Not the number of children she is able to produce; but how many sons and daughters she brings up in the fear of God.
   A woman’s beauty is measured by how much peace her family enjoys. The beauty of a woman is also the good testimonies the husband gives to her credit. Above all, the beauty of a woman is determined by how much she is recognized by her maker or her love for God. God never fails to appreciate the beautiful ones or those who love Him. As it is written, eye has not seen, nor ears heard, neither has it enter into the heart of men what God has prepared for those who love Him – (1st Corinthians 2: verse 9).
   A Christian is only beautiful if he or she possesses and exhibits the fruit of the Holy Spirit.
   The Beauty of a woman is a combination of some complex attributes in and out of her being. These include the way she talks, acts or reacts; her walks or her physical appearance; her will; habits; and her spiritual thoughts or mindset.

CHAPTER TWO
The Make-Up of Beauty of Woman
Song of Solomon 7: verse 1 to 8; “How graceful are your feet in sandals, O queenly maiden! Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a master hand. Your navel is a rounded bowl that never lacks mixed wine. Your belly is a heap of wheat, encircled with lilies. Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle”.
Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are pools in Heshbon, by the gate of Bath-rab’bim. Your nose is like a tower of Lebanon, overlooking Damascus.
“Your head crowns you like Carmel, and your flowing locks are like purple; a king is held captive in the tresses. How fair and pleasant you are, O loved one, delectable maiden! You are stately as a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters. I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its branches. Oh, may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, and the scent of your breath like apples”.
Why Should A Woman Be Beautiful?
“My breast is like towers, then I became in his eyes as one who found peace; – Songs of Solomon 8: verse 10.
The question is “why should a woman be beautiful?
It is simply for her to be attractive to a suitor if unmarried, and to a husband when married.
The bachelor would like to see the beauty in a woman he desires to marry. A woman has none else to present her beauty to but the man. Man is the beholder of the beauty of the woman.
The woman knows this very well. Therefore, she said; “My breasts like towers, then I became in his eyes as one who found peace”.
The woman only finds peace within the arms of her husband. It is only the husband also who can vividly describe the body anatomy of his wife.
If any man is able to describe your structures; because of your tight fitting, transparent wears, or the open body wears or as a result of your direct contact with him; then you are either his wife or you are adulterous or immoral.
And the only person who observes and admires the beauty in a woman is her husband or her suitor. There is no woman without a man. This is why it is often said that the glory of the woman is her husband.
Whatever her outward makeup; attire; and character presentations; all are just to please the immediate man.
The woman should therefore dress to please or to be admired only by her husband.
The spinster should make-up only in such manner that make her decent and not to look promiscuous, or prostituting.
A Woman
A Woman is the “weaker of man”. Where there are many “man”; the weaker ones amongst them are the “woman”.
The “weaker of man”; can also be described as whatever makes “man” to become “weak” in character; like in acting careless; confused; troubled; emotional; etcetera.
Songs of Solomon 4: verse 1 to 7; says; “How beautiful you are, my darling. How beautiful you are! Your eyes are like doves behind your veil; your hair is like a flock of goats that have descended from Mount Gilead.
“Your teeth are like a flock of newly shorn ewes which have come up from their washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost her young.
“Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely. Your temples are like a slice of a pomegranate behind your veil.
“Your neck is like the tower of David; built with rows of stones, on which are hung a thousand shields – all the round shields of the mighty men; ”Your two breasts are like two fawns; – Twins of a gazelle, which feed among the lilies”.
“Until the cool of the day when the shadows flee away, I will go my way to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of frankincense”. ”You are altogether beautiful, my darling, and there is no blemish in you”.
The physical appearance of a woman is one of the first things that testify of her beauty.
Although this is the first attractive quality in a woman, but it does not totally define the beauty of a woman.
A woman is the female of the human beings who is matured enough to be engaged in marriage with the male kind. Usually and in most cases the woman is attracted to the opposite sex or the male type by her nature and appearance – without blemishes.
There are many characteristics or features that differentiate a woman from a man.
The matured female of human being has some visible features on her body, which make her different from the man. These parts of the body also make her exteriorly attractive to the male.
The woman has longer hairs on the head. Her neck is smooth and round. Two breasts are positioned and pointed on the chest. The waist area is widely shaped.
The woman has bigger buttocks and sometimes, slimmer hands and legs than that of the man.
The body of the real woman is smooth and soft. She is hairless on her hands, legs, chin and chest.
The woman is so made to be attractive to the man.
The design and the shaping of the body are not by man but the creator.
However, man can naturally or sometimes artificially adjust some of these features (not the positions) to required shapes, only before they are matured.
For examples: The nose can be pulled longer or pressed flatter as required. The hairs can be cultivated and stretched longer or cut shorter. The breast can be molded rounder or shaped more pointed. The buttocks can be pressed flatter. And the legs and hands can be stretched straighter. With physical exercises, the shape of the body can be readjusted a little to make it more attractive. Also with physical cleanliness of the various parts, the body can be made to be more admirable. Therefore, for the woman to be externally attractive she must have to do some physical re-shaping as well as some physical cleaning of her body parts.
Generally, to be regarded as beautiful and desirable spiritual regeneration must necessarily be combined with the physical appearances.
This spiritual transformation or reformation is what brings out the real beauty in a woman. This beauty is “not the outward adornment of plaiting of hair, putting on of jewelry or wearing of expensive attire, but the chaste; inward character of a meek and quiet spirit”.
CLEANLINESS
Songs of Solomon 4: verse 2; “Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them is bereaved”.
Cleanliness is said to be next to Godliness. The cleaned person is attractive. The woman must learn to be clean if she wishes to be beautiful and attractive to the man.
In some women the bodily features may not be properly shaped. These categories of women must have to be both physically and spiritually clean to be seen as beautiful by men.
For example, a woman who is deformed could be likable if she is good mannered (courteous and respectful); neat and has attractive body odor.
But the woman with an angelic face and a complete body could be unattractive inside a dirty makeup, offensive body odor and a hostile character. A woman who is harsh; wicked; and aggressive can be very repulsive.
In order to enhance her beauty and attractiveness, the woman must have to learn, practice, and know how to, and as well do some proper washing, cleaning and shaping of her body even from a very tender age.
The woman needs to always wash; and perfume her armpits and maintain her hairs – (braided, plaited or combed). The openings between her thighs must constantly be washed.
The nails must be neatly cut shot and washed. Her underwear must be constantly washed to prevent its stinking because of the body secretions.
The woman must be properly well dressed too to be attractive. Her manner of dressing has a lot to tell of her in and outward cleanliness.
Her attire must completely cover her body anatomy if she wishes to be attractive to decent persons. Or else the suitor would simply see her as a prostitute if a spinster.
If she is married, her indecent dressing will make her to look like an adulteress.
COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION
1st Peter 3: verse 6; says; as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord; you are now her children if you do right and let nothing terrify you.
The beauty of a woman is seen in her compassionate communications or in her loving relationships and sound speeches. I went to visit a sister who had just given birth to a baby. As I sat there in their living room, with this sister, her husband came in from the market with some materials he had bought for their baby. One of the items was a little plastic cup designed for infants to drink water.
As he presented the items to his wife, she looked at the cup particularly, and in anger, shouted at the man, “this is worthless and useless to the baby”.
This poor man (not a believer) looked at me in such a manner like saying; “If you were not here, I would have dealt with her mouth for the foolish, reckless and unappreciative statement”.
I was personally concerned and troubled by her ugly utterances. Therefore, I quickly intervened to prevent a quarrel, and spoke to her first. ”Oh, sister this cup is very good, it is wonderful, and the baby will surely need it as she grows up”.
And then to the man, I said, “You have done well, you have foresight. This is a wonderful and useful thing you have purchased for your baby, thank you so much”.
This woman’s speeches were truly unguided, filthy and unbefitting a Christian lady. There was no sign of love or compassion for her husband in her communications. As human beings, especially Christians, our manner of speech or response to others has a lot to tell them of our inward personality; whether we have light or are still in darkness; whether we have love or are filled with hatred.
Our words have a lot to tell others of how beautiful, converted or transformed we really are.
Just as God does; the spirit filled man also watches the pure heart to judge the true beauty of a woman.
Some people have attractive exterior (big names) but inwardly they are like wolves – repulsive, wicked and selfish. Sometimes when you see a woman, expensively and gorgeously dressed you begin to say in your heart, “This woman is very beautiful”. But on a closer relationship, probably as you approach her to engage in transactions or conversations with her, then she begins to speak. From her speeches you are simply able to discern or notice that she is just not cultured, but only attired.
Although the first thing that attracts the animal to a tree is it’s ripe fruits, but the taste and the edibility of the fruit are another vital consideration. As Christians our lives are supposed to be attractive. We are the lights of the world and our utterances and actions should reflect that. The believer should be speaking as the oracles of God. People ought to be getting won to our God by our sound speeches.
The unbelieving husband is to be getting converted by the courteous language of his wife. The courteous language of a spinster could win her a husband.
SOUND MIND
The Lord said to Moses, ‘if her father had spat in her face, would she not be ashamed?’ – Numbers 12: verse 14. That Christian woman I mentioned earlier, who spoke harshly and unfriendly to her husband, later had some mysterious problems. She began to experience demonic attacks. She was so tormented that she then almost made the hospital her second home. There is usually a reward for every sowing on earth. The beautiful beings are beloved while the ugly ones are usually despised; depressed; oppressed, and rejected by divinity.
There was a time she almost went crazy after she had allowed herself to be ministered to by a witch doctor. She went to consult a native oracle when she was not well. When I questioned her during counseling; she confessed to me that; a female being slapped her in the dream, as she was singing:
“Jesus power! Super power!
Mammy waterpower! Power-less power!”
I believe she was thus slapped; being warned by a demon that she was not qualified to call the name of ‘Jesus Christ’ with a dirty tongue and a filthy heart. The problem with the woman was that; she was in the church; like Eve in the Garden of Eden. Eve was supposed to be in the garden as a co–laborer with Adam, but she ignorantly fell into the tricks of the devil as she strayed from Adam. This woman was not sanctified. She was within the church, but not in true fellowship with her maker. She was ignorant of the mind of God. She was married to a man but did not love him. She lacked good relationship with her husband. She was not in obedience and agreement with her man. This was against the law of true marriage; and of God the creator. Her hatred for her husband made her ugly; uncovered and thus; unprotected. She was unprotected, because God could not see beauty in her. Just as Eve lost the glory of God in the Garden of Eden when she disobeyed and ate the forbidden fruit, so it happened to this woman. Her lack of love (which proceeded from a dirty heart) for her husband was a sign of rebellion against her maker. Her case was therefore an example of demonic oppression, which is usually the effect of unwholesome character. She therefore; who despised man has only despised God, who gave man the Holy Spirit. – For God has not called us unto uncleanness, but to holiness – (1st Thessalonians 4: verses 8; & then7). Her obedience was not yet fulfilled hence she could not make the enemy to bow. Holiness is beauty; sin makes a Christian filthy in God’s presence; and unprotected by the Holy Ghost.
CHARACTER OR “CHARITY”
Song of Solomon 8: verses 1 to 10; says; “O that you were like a brother to me that nursed at my mother’s breast! If I met you outside, I would kiss you, and none would despise me”. I would lead you and bring you into the house of my mother, and into the chamber of her that conceived me. I would give you spiced wine to drink, the juice of my pomegranates. O that his left hand were under my head and that his right hand embraced me! I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem; that you stir not up nor awaken love until it please. Who is that coming up from the wilderness, leaning upon her beloved? Under the apple tree I awakened you.
There your mother was in travail with you; there she who bore you was in travail. Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm; for love is strong as death, jealousy is cruel as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, a most vehement flame. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, it would be utterly scorned. We have a little sister, and she has no breasts. What shall we do for our sister, on the day when she is spoken for? If she is a wall, we will build upon her a battlement of silver; but if she is a door, we will enclose her with boards of cedar. I was a wall, and my breasts were like towers; then I was in his eyes as one who brings peace.
The beauty of a woman is a display of her good character or CHARITY: The word “CHARITY” is defined as:

1. Courtesy: compassion, companionship.
2. Hospitality: humility, humorous and honesty.
3. Activities: attractive and attentive in conduct and in obedience.
4. Responses: respectful and responsible.
5. Interactive: interesting, involving.
6. Tactfulness: show of wisdom.
7. Yielded-ness: simple and submissiveness.
   Positive conduct exhibits the woman’s beauty while negative actions expose her ugliness. If a woman is courteous, hospitable, active, friendly, and wise, she is attractive. But when she is proud, repulsive, disobedient and disrespectful, she stands to be despised or disapproved or simply considered as ugly.
   Some other dirty characters include unforgiving spirit, unkindness, impatience, harshness, greed, unfaithfulness, non-teachable spirit, ungratefulness, and ignorance. The wife of Ahasereus the king of Shushan; – Vashti; was a very beautiful woman; but when she disobeyed the king; – her husband; a replacement was immediately sought for in her place. It was the display of her pride that led to the choice of Esther as queen in Shushan. That is why it is said that the “beauty” of a woman lies within her inner being and not just the outside adornments or physical make-up.
   Any woman, who wishes to be ever beautiful; must learn and adopt good conducts like being submissive, courteous in greetings, speeches and respectful in relationships. Her movement must be graceful and her actions devoid of pride.
   The inward or the spirit of a woman – character completes her beauty. The word of God calls this “CHARITY”. This was the original nature of man as created by God.
   As the saying that CHARITY begins at home, the beauty of a woman begins from her yesterday. From her childhood the woman who wishes to be ever beautiful must have learnt, or must have been taught good conducts. As a child she learns to greet well, talk well, stand and walk well, dress well, eat well, etc. She is also taught how to clean up herself, environment, clothes, etc. She is taught good culture and the merits of chastity.
   If a man must be pleased, and if a woman must be admired and accepted by any man, then her duties should be unto that man.
   Undeniably, women live for men. All their conducts are either to attract or to repel ‘man’. Her duties are defined in the word “CHARITY”. These are characters that make the woman ever beautiful. And if a wife must continually be pleasant to her husband, she has to be ever beautiful. Her conduct and appearance must thus reflect decent character. A woman is only to be attractive to her suitor as a spinster and to her husband when married.
   Often times some single ladies are not able to find out the reasons their suitors suddenly disappoint them. One major responsible factor is the absence of beauty. Appearance and external adornments or possessions may have attracted a man, but when the real beauty – charity, is absent, he is scared off. Many and various things describe the attractiveness of a woman.
8. Her physical appearance – attire or her make-up.
9. Her character; or conduct.
10. Her spiritual inclination – holiness.
11. Her relationship with the outside world – social, amusing or dull.
12. Her husband; or what she desires.
    Many factors are put together to classify a woman as beautiful. These also include her in and outward cleanliness, knowledge (education) and appeal. For examples, if a woman has good character, but unlearned, and dirty, she will be less attractive. If a woman is cleaned, and lettered, but lacks hospitality, she will be slightly repulsive. If a woman is intelligent, with good manners but dirty she may be a bit unattractive.
    For any woman to be truly attractive or regarded as beautiful she must be intelligent and wise, good mannered, neat, as well as cleaned – physically and spiritually sanctified – her bodily features or figure notwithstanding.
    Beauty is an outstanding, honorable, and attractive quality in a female being. One that is beautiful is respectable, honorable, desirable, beloved and useful as a woman.
    Both the physical and spiritual qualities combined make the woman beautiful. Therefore; if a woman is outwardly clean and inwardly pure, she is beautiful. However the things that make the woman attractive to a suitor or a husband initially vary from one individual to another.
    Generally, to the spiritual man, the character of the woman matters so much. But to the carnal man; the outward adornment is just enough. In the process of time, every man expects to see his woman beautiful always, and he is usually expected to observe this “beauty” from both in her character and in her appearance.
    The character is a function of the inward person or the spirit. It is the spirit within who controls the outward being. The gentle smiles, good talks; etc.; are in most cases out of the abundance of the good heart. But some witches could magically exhibit these characters from their wicked minds to manipulate others to their advantages. Therefore, when both the outward makeup and the inward purity are combined, the woman is said to be a virtue. Such a woman is very rare to find. If any woman can make herself so, she will be most desirable. It is possible to be a virtuous woman, but for a price. Nothing good comes easily. Nothing attractive is cheap. Do not make yourself cheap to any man if you want him to admire your beauty forever. To achieve an admirable beauty; the woman must put on her best character. She must discipline herself and be determined to be attractive forever.
    ACTIVE LOVE OR COMMITMENT
    Charity is love in action, such as: affectionate and tender devotion, warm kind feelings, and fondness. The activities are: – cooperation, dedication, joy, obedience, prayers, patience, cheerfulness, submissiveness, faithfulness, and all other good virtues and conducts put together. The statement; “Charity begins at home” also mean that good character must have been in one’s culture. The woman is expected to first show respect to her husband at home before displaying her love to the outside world. If a woman is not at peace with her husband (or neighbors) at home, then her profession of Christianity is vain. She is therefore, not beautiful before God and man. Besides being thus unattractive, she also stands the chance of missing the kingdom of God if she does not repent. Therefore, throw off or swallow up your shame and pride today. And submit yourself to every ordinances of man for the LORD’S sake: whether it is to the king, as supreme; or unto YOUR HUSBAND as the head of your home, (whether he is poor or rich). For so is the will of God, that with well doing you may put to silence the ignorance of foolish men – (1st Peter 2:13, 15; Paraphrased). The more excellent way to have everything – to loose nothing and to be ever beautiful as a woman is an impartial or unconditional love, to your husband.
    First Corinthians chapter thirteen says:
13. Charity suffers long. The wife who wishes to be forever beautiful must be able to bear corrections, chastening, and teachings from the husband. She is created to follow the man.
14. Love respects and it does not retaliate:
    As it is that charity begins at home, from your youth as a lady, you have to learn to greet well, speak well, and cook well and to do well all other things that your good culture and home teaches.
15. Charity is kind and submissive. A wife must give her totality to a husband, especially in physical lovemaking. Love gives sacrificially. GOD’S ORDER: as long as we believe that God made the man first, and that she was taken; as one rib of man from man; she is made to be submissive to man.
16. Love is appreciative and not greedy.
    Charity envies not. Love vaunted not itself. The wife should not be fretting; or complaining. Complaining makes a wife ugly before her husband.
17. Love is not puffed up. A Christian housewife should not be too proud to prepare the husband’s food.
18. Charity does not behave itself unseemly; – The wise wife does not pull at his tie or hold to his trousers asking to be beaten.
19. Seeks not her own; – A good wife is not that one who selfishly keeps her income and expect the man to spend his own only.
20. Is not easily provoked;
    She should not be the kind of woman who throws spoons and knife, cups and water at the children or on the husband at the slightest provocations.
21. Thinks no evil. She should not think of fighting the man, neither should she meditate on going to look for pleasure from other men. She is wise.
22. Rejoice not in iniquity; but rejoices in the truth. – Bears all things. If there is less money she bless God; if there is no food she is just the same as if there is.
    1st Corinthians 9: verse 22; “To the weak became I as weak, that I might gain the weak: I am made all things to all men, that I might by all means save some”.
    Love believes all things, hopes all things, endure all things. Joel 3: verse 10; says; beat your plowshares into swords, and your pruning hooks into spears: let the weak say, I am strong.
    Her motto is: “it shall be well to the glory of God”.
    Love never fail, love does not plan to kill her husband.
    Love of the Holy God does not go to consult occult powers for favors; or to be acceptable to a husband or to any man.
    Love covers multitude of sins.
    Satan is the author of sin. His aim is to create an unhealthy environment in the family, and steal happiness away. Satan is the thief that usually enters into the careless family to steal away peace and joy by destroying the love as the wife begins to find faults with the husband. In John 10: verse 10; Jesus says; the thief comes with the mind to steal, and to kill and to destroy; I am come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven. Now are come salvation, and strength and the kingdom of our God and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren who ACCUSED them before our God day and night has been cast down. – Revelation; 12: verse 10. Accusations are the weapons of the devil in the family. He accuses the husband to the wife and vise visa. In love, the wife will disbelieve the evil voice from the enemy of progress and peace. The husband also will only see the beauty in her. And they overcame him by the blood of the lamb, and by the word of their testimony: And they LOVED not their lives unto death – Revelation 12: verse 11.
    A wife that knows how to talk well and sensibly too wins her husband’s heart. The devil is constantly put to shame by her faithful and cheerful utterances. With love in the heart of the wife, happiness, joy, prosperity, etc. will abide in the marriage. Love cares; love correct, and teaches. Love protects and defends the integrity of the family. Love is what makes the woman’s beauty to radiate. Love is the light in darkness; that drives away darkness from the marriage. The light shines in darkness and darkness is not able to stop it from shining (Personal phrase). The woman who speaks well and relates well with people becomes shining and attractive to all. While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear; .., they also may without the word be won by the conversation of wives. 1st Peter 3: verse 2; then 1.
    Love does not enslave a wife to her husband. There is no fear in LOVE, but perfect love casts out fear: because fear has torment. He that fears is not made perfect in love. He that loves not knows not God: for God is love. (1st John 4: verse 18; then 8). Whenever you are afraid or ashamed of your partner, surely; some other things have replaced the Holy Spirit in your home. And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself, (Genesis 3: verse 10). Adam only knew he was naked and became afraid and ashamed when he replaced God with Satan in his life in the Garden of Eden. The love of money, men, and material things of life could make a woman to be ugly, afraid, and ashamed of her husband. Every wise woman should examine her heart always so that she could be free from contamination from the powers of darkness and thus will remain forever beautiful before God and her husband.
    Love does not insinuate. The wife should not be muttering inaudible offensive words or audible abusive words to the hearing of the man. Love does not set up a snare for a husband to be caught. She does not talk her immediate family to outsiders in a disgraceful manner.
    Love does no nagging. Love does not visit the offence of the husband on the children. Love does not doubt the husband. The Christian housewife should not begin to search the bags and pockets of her husband to find faults of unfaithfulness. He that covers a transgression seeks love, – Proverb 17: verse 9.
    Love is cheerful, giving and caring. If the woman refuses to give herself to, or, does not care for her husband, she stands the chance of losing him to a Delilah. Behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot, and subtle of heart – (Proverbs 7: verse 10). Besides pushing him to a second wife, her lack of fondness, or her carelessness may send him to a drinking hall and to death. It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in wide house. It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman – Proverb 25: verse 24; and 21: verse 19.
    Love is cheerful and accommodating:
    By it; the Christian housewife would be able to convert her husband and friends to Christ.  
    CHAPTER THREE
    RESPONSIBILITIES –
    COMPANIONSHIP AND HOSPITALITY
    Proverbs 18: verse 24; says; A man who has a friend must himself be friendly. Therefore; if you want your spouse to admire and observe the beauty in you; then you must be friendly, responsible and hospitable.
    In 1st Samuel 15:17, Prophet Samuel told King Saul that when he was not proud to carry out the duties assigned to him by God, he was seen as beautiful and acceptable to God. But when he could no longer obey the will of God he became careless and unattractive to God.
    Failure of some families to live satisfactorily together could be attributed to ignorance and carelessness of the couple to wisely and effectively perform their individual duties; and responsibilities.
    In marriage, each partner has a duty or duties to perform to the other.
    These functions are so design by God to bring blessings to the couples in particular and the universe in general.
    The man must be strong and caring; the woman must be beautiful; admirable and willing.
    Her admirer must see beauty in the woman as long as she is careful and responsive. Or as long as she is not too proud to let the spirit of the Holy God control her conducts.
    The ever-beautiful woman is such that cares, and is careful not to be offensive to her admirers.
    But Queen Vashti refused to come at the King’s command brought by his eunuchs. Therefore, the King was furious, and his anger burned within him. “What shall we do to Queen Vashti, according to law, because she did not obey the command of King Ahasuerus brought to her by the eunuchs?
    The failures at the family circle are the causes of most of the world’s troubles today.
    For the queen’s behavior will become known to all women, so that they will despised their husbands in their eyes when they report, “king Ahasuerus commanded queen Vashti to be brought to him but she did not come”.

• (Esther 1: verses 12, 15, & 17)
  Failure on the part of one, or both of the couples to do the will of God at home, usually create an ugliness leading to physical and spiritual barrenness and oppression.
  Many Christians are ignorant of the mind of God. The wife – husband relationship is a type of Christian – Christ relationship. As Christ is the head of the church and Lord of the Christians so is the husband the head of his home and lord of his wife.
  God always gives the woman the grace to live with the man she loves. But the promises and blessings from God are not just automatic for every creature, except those who love and do His will.
  Like every good thing in life, there are prices you must pay to be worthy of God’s bounties as a wife whose life style must be excellently lived.
  These prices are simply responsibilities, which you must and faithfully perform to your husband as a wife, believing in him as your head and lord in the physical home. God designed these duties for man from the beginning to make the marriage union orderly, enjoyable and a blessing.
  That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their husband, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2: verses 4 to 5)
  And blessed is ‘she’ that believed for there shall be a performance of those things, which were told her from the LORD – (Luke 1: verse 45).
  The Lord shall open unto her His good treasures the heaven to give the rain unto her land in its season, and to bless all the works of her hand.
  She shall lend unto many… and she shall not borrow. Blessed shall be the fruit of her body – Her ground…. – Her basket and her store.
  (Deuteronomy 28: verses 1 to 15. Paraphrased)
  The Christian housewife is expected to co-operate with her husband in whatever he says or does, as long as such word or action is not sinful. She is to obey him, not as a slave to a master, but as a sister to an elderly brother. She is to be submissive to him as one who desires peace with a ‘partner’; for progresses; praying for him as his co-laborer and ‘well-wisher’. She is to be dedicated to him as one who is committed to a brother.
  Above all and the more excellent way to win the heart of your husband, is Charity, which is the true love that does not wish a husband any harm.
  The woman is a part of the man; she definitely will not wish her-self any harm.
  As the tongue and the mouth cannot be separated; so the husband and the wife are inseparable, and indispensable to one another in most cases.
  LOVE CHARM – CAREFUL AND CARING
  Whatever you sow, that you will also reap – Galatians 6: verse 7
  Beauty can be very charming; and it does not require magical powers to attract any one. A woman went to a native doctor to obtain love charm. She complained of maltreatment from her husband and her mother in-law. The native doctor then instructed her to go and bring some money and to return after some days for the beauty charm. According to the doctor, he then prepared some burnt fruit leaves grounded into black powder for the woman. She was instructed to rub the powder always on her forehead invisibly to her husband and his mother. She was counseled to change her attitude towards her husband and his mother. She was told to be hard working – to wash and clean up her husband’s and his mother’s rooms and clothing.
  She was told to henceforth learn to prepare good and delicious meals for her household. Above all she must be courteous to her husband and others in her household.
  As she carried out these instructions from the native doctor; that is, when she performed her duties as a wise woman, the attitude of her husband changed towards her. Her beauty became noticeable and she became beloved to her husband and mother in-law. Therefore, some days later, she went to the native doctor rejoicing; to thank him that the love charm really worked well.
  But the native doctor replied and said to her, “It was not the charm that really worked to make your husband loved you but the caring, submissiveness, loving, obedience, and hardworking attitude (good hospitality); you adopted; coupled with your change of heart towards your marriage.
  Your present state of mind and conduct actually worked the magic and made you beautiful and attractive to your husband again. Every woman should know it that no matter the degree of charming and the amount of praying, if her heart is harden and unconverted, her problems will remain. Love is contagious. The more you give it the more you reap it from others. A little appreciation for the small thing offered, can spark off a husband’s love for the wife.
  A little smile can open up the wife’s well of beauty for the husband to be attracted. A wife that truly loves and cares for her husband is ever beautiful, well covered and protected.
  If you as a woman can sincerely cooperate with your husband, let all the witches and wizards in your environment gang up against you when you are pregnant; your delivery will come with ease. Barrenness will be far from you. Your good relationship with your husband, coupled with the fear of God in your heart can break off every yoke.
  No weapon fashioned against any faithful Christian that prospers.
  The reflection of love from the heart of a woman makes her beautiful and protected.
  As there is no Christ without Christians and no Christian without Christ; so there is no wife without a husband and no husband without a wife.
  Prayer: LORD, keep me abiding in you. Lord; grant me the grace to live with my husband. Lord, make your glory to shine on me, so that men will see my beauty and praise your name. LORD, by your grace; do empower me to be able to freely love even as you freely gave us your son Jesus Christ. Amen.
  The Spinster can add:
  Lord; let your pure Love radiate from me; so that I will be able to attract and contact a husband of Your will for me; in Jesus name. Amen.

CHAPTER FOUR
OBEDIENCE IS BEAUTIFUL
She said, all that you say unto me I will do. And she went down unto the floor, and did according to what her mother in-law bade her – (Ruth 3: verses 5 and 6).
Obedience is readiness to do whatever order says, except to sin. That is; willingness; not grudgingly nor murmuring; to do what one is told to do. Obedience brings blessings.
But if thou shall indeed obey his voice, and do all that I speak, then I will be an enemy unto thy enemies, and adversaries – Exodus 23: verse 22.
Disobedience brings cause…
He, that is often reproved, and hardens his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, without remedy, – (Proverbs 29: verse 1).
Deuteronomy, chapter twenty-eight teaches the blessings of obedience, and the curses of disobedience.
Disobedience is described as equal to the sin of witchcraft… And Samuel said, has the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in OBEYING the voice of the LORD? Behold, to OBEY is better than sacrifice, and to hear than the fats of rams.
REBELLION is as the sin of witchcraft, and STUBBORNNESS is as iniquity and idolatry.
Because you have rejected the word of the LORD, he has also rejected you from being king – (1st Samuel 15: verses 22-23).
Consequently, the Christian housewife who is rebellious to her husband for whatever the reason (except against sin) automatically loses her authority; or beauty; and blessings of the home. You shall beget sons and daughters, but thou shall not enjoy them, for they shall go into captivity. (Deuteronomy 28: verse 41).
The curse may not be immediate. Except the wife repents, her sin will find her out in the future. Be not deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever man sows shall he also reap. (Galatians 6: verse 7).
When a woman is disobedient to her husband she incurs curses upon herself, even if the man does not pronounce it directly.
Every time; when the man is praying against the causes of failures in his family and he binds and curses the Devil, the witches, and the wizards; the disobedient wife also gets cursed or afflicted indirectly.
This is usually the cause for most divorces, barrenness, death, sickness and poverty in Christian homes.
It was the disobedience of Eve that brought the curse on the family of Adam in the Garden of Eden.
Genesis 3: verses 1 to 24; says; I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her seed; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel… I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception…; in the sweat of your face shall you eat bread; He drove out the man.
Living under the authority of a husband is one of the very difficult tasks in life. But if you have a believer as a husband, I congratulate you. The woman should be careful never to emotionally walk with the believer man, nor to respond to him by human reasoning. God may sometimes speak to him and she may not like some of his decisions if her fleshly desires or human understanding are allowed to operate. Isaiah 55: verse 8 to 9; “says; My thoughts are not your thoughts; neither are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth; so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.
A “Faith” walking husband could easily be misunderstood by a carnally thinking wife; thus taking his ideas and decisions as foolish and insensitive.
Husband is the Beauty of a woman
If a wife could allow her husband to control her, she will discover how much he really loves her. Eve lost her beauty – the glory of God because she despised authority. She wandered away from her husband and met with Satan. The authority over the woman is her glory and beauty. The woman without a husband has neither security nor honors. That is why the woman should always pray for her husband, he is her glory. The Christian housewife should always pray for God’s grace to be able to obey the godly instructions of her husband. Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord: whose daughters you are, as long as you do well, and are not afraid … As obedient children, not fashioning your self-according to the former lust in your ignorance- – (1st peter 3: verse 6; and 1: verse 4).
There are many areas that your man may require your obedience, such as: the ways and manners to handle the house chores, food preparations, children cares, reception of visitors, etc. These are not sinful request, just that nature does not easily adapt to changes is the problem with many people.
Laziness can make a woman to be seen as ugly by her man. A wife needs to abide in Christ for extra strength and grace to care for her husband.
He may not want you to go out at some hours of the day or he may not like you to wear some kinds of clothes that displays or exposes the body anatomy. Just obey! It is the way he likes you. Obedience is the only way for your personal peace. Obedience is the will of God for you so that you could prosper in whatever you both agree to do. Do not ever have your own will except he asks you to sin against God. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church; and He is the savior of the body- (Ephesians 5: verse 23). The church cannot disobey the Spirit of Christ and expect to prosper. Any church that does not abide in Christ cannot bear fruits (John 15: verse 4). Obedience shows you are committed, humbled, abiding, tactful, responsive, interacting, and yielded. Your husband is not your boss so do not shout at him. Do not snub him.
Let the Spirit of Christ possess your spirit. Abiding with him is the only way to break every evil yokes and barrenness off your life. Godly children make the woman beautiful.
The wife is not made to be a slave to the husband. She is created to live mutually, but subject to the man as members of the one body. For the body is not one member but many. – (1st Corinthian 12: verse 14). He is the head and she is the neck. The head contains the brain and does the thinking to direct the body. The eyes of the head see the way and the neck; hands and legs have to obey. Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourself: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account and they may do it with joy and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you… (Hebrews 13: verse 17);
That your prayers be not hindered… – (1st Peter 3: verse 7). If you as a wife could manifest absolute obedience to your husband, you will discover how much he loves you.
He had made the initiative by asking for your hand in marriage. You did agree also, and hence you must NEVER discourage him now by your woman manners. Never ever allow him to compel you to do anything that is legal and worth doing in marriage. (Read ‘how to make your marriage partner happy’ by Lawrence Emwosa Osifo). Man, (like God) does not love DISOBEDIENT and arrogant wife.
Obedience brings beautiful blessings.
OBEDIENCE IS AGREEMENT
Again! I say to you that if two of you agree on earth, concerning anything they ask, it shall be done speedily; – Matthew 18: verse 19.
Agreement means cooperating with someone to carry out a worthy plan and, or working and acting together for a common purpose. In other words, two or more persons in one accord agree together to pursue a course.
And when the day of Pentecost was fully come they were all with one accord in one place; Acts 2: verse 1. Two cannot walk together, except they agree (Amos 3: verse 3).
A woman can only be attractive or seen as beautiful if she fully agrees with her man.
There must be an absolute trust between the partners in agreement; or else there will be no love. And their purposes will be defeated, as their ultimate goal becomes impossible.
In marriage, cooperation is very vital.
Besides reproduction, coupled with pleasures, God created the woman to be a co-laborer with the man as seen in the Garden of Eden. And the Lord God took the man, and put him in the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. And the Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a help meet for him (Genesis 2: verses 15 & 18). A wife must agree with a husband for effective production output.
God has given to Adam (Man) the assignment to subdue the animals on the land; the birds in the air; and fishes in the sea; as well as to keep the garden. And God blessed them and God said unto them be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth and subdue it. And have dominion over the fishes in the sea, and over the fowls of the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.” (Genesis 1: verse 28.). Only one hundred percent of Eve’s agreement will suffice in this circumstance.
A woman that sees these assignments given to a man; and she agrees to go 100% along with the man, is beautiful.
As a Christian housewife, you cannot do otherwise but to totally cooperate with your husband in everything, except to sin. You must not cooperate with your husband to cheat on God, like Sarah and Saphira.
Sarah told Abraham to meet with Hagai because she thought she was barren, thereby, she agreed with her husband to commit adultery – to produce an unholy seed. By this sinful act she lost her beauty or favor with God for some time. Saphira connived with her husband Annanias to deceive the church. These ones lost their beauty and God’s wrath came upon them.
“Then Peter said to her, how is it that you have agreed together to tempt the Spirit of the Lord? Behold, the feet of them, which have buried your husband, are at the door and shall carry you out. Then she fell down… and yielded up the ghost…” Acts 5: verses 9 &10.
Why is your agreement necessary?
A man needs a companion; the woman who has that spirit which agrees with his; is the one that appeals to him most. A man has many forces that are against him. The husband has these elemental forces and situations like: in-laws, friends and foes, jobs, etc.; to contend with; and ought not to be distracted. The couples therefore need to be united physically and spiritually to be able to subdue the above forces. That is why a man needs a partner of warfare who is soul, spirit and body in agreement with him. The husband needs the cooperation of the woman at times of planning, playing, and praying. The husband and wife should pray together, plan their projects together and execute it together.
Agreement is walking together, working together and winning together.
Eve fell into the trap of Satan when she wandered away from Adam. In Genesis chapter three verse one; Adam was out of sight, and out of the mind of Eve. In verse two of Genesis chapter three; we saw Eve as doubting the word of God… “We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden”.
In this place; Eve manifested a kind of careless attitude towards her husband; and to God. First; she was alone with the serpent. Secondly, she could not use any sure word in her statements. These should not be in marriage. The spirit of man must constantly go with the woman.
In 2nd Kings 5: verse 25, Elisha’s spirit went with his servant. This was a type of husband and wife relationship.
Your agreement with your husband will make you to know his doctrine, desires, and dislikes. Such knowledge makes the woman ever beautiful before her man.
A co-operating housewife is never careless but concerned about the where about of her husband except she is an adulteress. A co-operated mother should know the needs of her children and husband. She should be able to study and understand when they are hungry, or needed cares, or when they are moody and needed comforts.
The husband may at times present some godly plans and the wife may presently not see the viability of such a project. The first duty of the wife at such a time is to agree with the husband to discuss the possibilities. She should not immediately cast it off; as if impossible or not viable.
Esther bade them return mordecai this answer. Go gather together all the Jews that are present in shushan and fast for me, and do neither eat nor drink for three days, night or days. I and my maidens will fast likewise; and so will I go in unto the king, which is not according to the law: and if I perish, I perish; – (Esther 4: verses 15&16).
Esther agreed, cooperated and submitted to her uncle and to God’s will.
SUBMISSIVENESS IS BEAUTIFUL
One thing that keeps the servant longer than necessary on his knees before the king is his stubbornness. The wise servant does not argue with the king. The wife that asks anxiously; annoys; accuses; and argues angrily with her husband is not a beautiful woman.
Submissiveness means to put oneself under the control of the other. The Christian housewife should allow the husband to control her. She should not and never seek to take the leadership mantle at home. Even in a home where the wife happens to be the breadwinner, she must still submit to the husband.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husband, as unto the LORD. The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, and he is the savior of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives act to their own husbands in EVERYTHING; – (Ephesians 5: verse 22 to 24).
See your husband as a leader. Through him God does direct your affairs. Without him you cannot receive from God. As you see your husband, so others will see him. The more you submit to him, the more you will also be elevated.
As God cannot deal with the church without Christ, so God cannot bless the wife without the husband. If you despise him, the devil will replace God in your home. Any blessings therefore will be fake and temporal.
The husband is the head and he must be your lord if Christ must reign in your home.
This is what God has ordained from the beginning of creation and no one can annul it.
As earlier said, the wife is not a slave to the man. She is the member of his body: as written in Genesis chapter two, verse 22 to 23: With the rib, which the LORD GOD had taken from the man, he made a woman, and brought her unto the man.
And Adam said this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man.
In Genesis 2: verse 25, the bible says that the man and his wife, were both naked, and were not ashamed.
This tells us that there should be no secrete between husband and wife. The wife should unlock her heart and her purse to her husband and live mutually together with him.
The wife is not a slave; the husband is not a tyrant. He leads in decision-making and the wife humbles herself by allowing the man to preside in their meetings.
Hence the bible says in: Genesis 3: verse 16… and your desire shall be to your husband and he SHALL RULE OVER you. You should not hide anything from your husband – whether past or present. If you do, you are inviting death to yourself like Rachel – Jacob’s wife; who hid her father’s idol in her tent. She died during childbearing.
Wives submit your selves unto your husband, as it is fit in the LORD- Colossians 3: verse 18.
Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ – Colossians 2: verse 8.
The world may be teaching you “women emancipation” or “women equal rights with men”. Be careful you do not offend God, your creator; by allowing these ungodly ideas to dent your Christian faith.
It is a fearful thing if you fall into the hand of the living God… for our God is a consuming fire – (Hebrews 12: verse 29).
God did not create the woman to be a slave to man, but as co-laborer and companion to man. The woman does not need freedom because she had not been a slave to man.
The woman does not need equal right power with man because she had been made a help meet equal with man from creation.
The woman is not in any way inferior or less than the man in the sight of God.
She only has different components; and duties from man.
Be submissive to your husband is the order from the creator because the man was created first. In Christ we live individually.
Therefore, do not imitate other women. Understand your husband and you will be forever beautiful before him. Your husband is personal to you.
There are individual homes just as we have different faces. Your personal interactions with your husband will make him to see beauty in you forever.
When you co-operate, you must sincerely submit your pride and will. When you dedicate yourself, you must not do so grudgingly but wholeheartedly.
Your obedience must not be done rebelliously with cursing in your heart.
Your prayers must be without partiality, not selfish and must be said with unconditional love from the heart.
Wherefore laying aside all malice and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies and all evil speaking – (1st Peter 2: verse 1). Likewise you wives should be in subjection to your own husbands; that if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives – (1st Peter 3: verse 1).
Forasmuch then as Christ has suffered for us in the flesh, likewise arm yourselves; with the same mind: for he that has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin – (1st Peter 4: verse 1).
You should not be the kind of wife that frightens her husband with cheerless or angry countenance. Your husband should not be afraid to relate with you because of your anger and stubbornness.
Submissiveness is to faithfully love your husband and to obey him not as a slave but as your elderly companion being dedicated to him as a good friend, and praying for him as a brother. In the Bible, the daughter of Saul – who was the wife of king David was not friendly and submissive (though married) to David and his God.
Part of the story was that: David returned from blessing his household. And the daughter of Saul came out to meet David and said. How glorious was the king of Israel today who uncovered himself today in the eyes of the handmaids of his servant, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovers him-self?
And David said unto her, it was before the LORD, which chooses me before thy father…
Therefore, will I pray before the LORD, and I will yet be viler than thus… and of the maidservants… of them shall I be had in honor.
Thus the daughter of Saul was barren till her death; (2nd Samuel 6: verses 20 to 22).
The husband you are despising now is like a precious stone (gold) greatly desire by many spinsters.
The Jews rejected Christ- the chief corner stone that the builders rejected but he became the head of the corner- a sure foundation.
Many women would like to die for that husband you rejected and called useless.
A prophet has honors but in his own house.
Many people love to become Christian. But the Christians are rejecting Christ. Most single women you see in fanciful cars are not all happy as you are. Many of them would like to give up their wealth and possess your kind of husband in marriage and to have your Christ to worship. Many have problems beyond mention. But God has showed his mercy to you.
Your ability to maintain and to retain your own in Christ is your beauty. Let love guide your actions always.
The woman is advised to be wise in conduct, courteous in her speech, and quick to hear or to understand.
That is, when she observes husband’s faults, she should be slow to speak or quarrel and to react negatively. Never take any rash decision.
Never ever allow the devil to speak to your heart. Be wiser than the serpent. Never, ever think of divorcing your man. A quarrelsome woman usually drives off the good man from the house. The divorced and the single women have no joy but regrets in their hearts. The other place you may want to run to is not better off. Many women want a home like your own.
There is no home without issues or misunderstandings. Submit to your husband and you shall prosper and be seen as beautiful forever.
One of the greatest sign that a woman is truly married, obedient and submissive is that she becomes like the man. She learns his language and culture.
Hence the believers in Christ are called Christians or Christ-like. Christ is the beauty of the Christians.
Husband is the beauty of a wife. Ugly women are not able to keep their husbands.
BE TACT- FUL
Tactful; – is a display of wisdom. The wise woman builds her house. The foolish one pulls it down with her hands. – Proverbs 14:1
When an argument erupts (for there is no home without argument) in project discussion, wisdom demands that the beautiful wife should not be quick to condemn; or reject his proposals; or be accusing the man as dominating and unreasonable. She should not begin to remind him of her qualifications or her position in the church or office.
She should not begin to quote scriptures or worldly ordinances for her defenses. The wife should never fight the man, neither with her tongue. She must learn to play calm and be patient. She should not easily and soon be angry. She could only present her seemingly and more viable project or suggestions when their temper tempo dies down.
Take Abigail, for example; when her husband refused to give to David; and David was coming to kill her husband, she acted wisely and promptly to pacify the enraged David. She stood in the gap for her husband. Let not my lord regards this man of balial, even Nabal: as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, folly is with him: but your handmaid saw not the young men whom you sent… I pray; please; forgive the trespass of your handmaid… And David said to Abigail, Blessed is the LORD GOD of Israel, who sent you this day to meet me. … Blessed be your advice.
Abigail diplomatically allowed her drunken husband to be sober before she reminded him of his suicidal decision the previous day. But it came to pass in the morning, when the wine was gone out of Nabal and his wife has told him these things. … – 1st Samuel 25: verses 1 to 43.
Her wisdom was a tactful display of her beauty.
INTERACTIONS
A Christian woman should not be disrespectful, or quick to disagreeing with her husband who is not able to meet her immediate needs. No man is perfect, angelic and faultless. Woman should understand this. The wise wife should cooperate with and encourage her husband to build the home. The beauty of a woman is a peaceful home.
The wife should not destroy her home by any wicked act or foolish conduct. She should not connive with her husband to cheat on others. There are some husbands who are specialists in advanced skill frauds business. They usually make their wives consultants and prayer warriors.
Such wives go about ignorantly, consulting false prophets and occult homes for charms and prayers, expecting that the wealth acquired there-by shall be used to buy beauty and to purchase positions of honors in the church. Such an unfortunate Christian housewife married to jobless and careless husband, can be deliver if she allows Christ to have His way in her life. You have to pray for God’s grace and wisdom or else the devil will always make you to see the reason why you must not only connive but also to collaborate with your husband to sin against God.
YIELDED SPIRIT
If you abide in my words then you are my disciples indeed; – John 8:31
For the woman to be ever beautiful before the man she must be a true yoke-fellow.
The Christian wife should not be such who must be begged or petted endlessly by her husband; before she would agree to do anything; even to throw off anger and to remove her under wears.
There is the saying that behind every successful man there is a wise woman.
No man loves a liability wife; or a dirty and unsanctified woman.
A wife that fails in her responsibilities is definitely disobedient to God. She is ugly. And such is usually responsible for the oppression, depressions, sickness, poverty; weakness, etc.; in many wives. These things make the wife a liability and a bore to the husband. The responsible woman is ever beautiful, before her man.
To be yielded is dedication, which is the art of giving up, or devoting ones time, energy, life, etc. to a noble course or purpose.
A Christian housewife ceases to have her own will but the will of her Godly minded husband, the moment they are wedded together.
The wife has no power of her own body, but the husband; and likewise the husband has no power of his own body, but the wife; 1st Corinthians 7: verse 4:
The law binds the woman who has a husband to her husband so long as he lives, but if the husband was dead she is loosed from the law of her husband… Romans 7:2,
And thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee – (Genesis 3:16).
Other word for yielded is “Commitment”
The wife should be committed to the course of keeping her home – the husband and children. Her immediate family takes pre-eminence over other things in her life except God.
Anything short of this becomes adulterous. So then if while her husband lives, she be married to another man, (committed to trade, or otherwise) she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. (Romans 7:3).

 
CHAPTER FIVE
ABIDING IN CHRIST
2nd Timothy 2:12; says; No man that wars entangles him-self with affairs of this life; that he may please him who has chosen him to be a soldier.
Any Christian that is ashamed of Christ will not be rewarded. A wife that is ashamed of her husband is an adulteress. Know you not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the Kingdom of God? Be not deceive, neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of them-selves, with mankind-shall inherit the Kingdom of God – (1st Corinthians 6:9). A Christian that goes to serving idols or to consult occult and dark powers has broken the hedge and must be bitten by serpent, for not abiding in Christ. Your husband should come next in your life after Christ. Your faith in God will enable you to please your husband and do his bidding. From the moment the marriage is contracted, as long as the marriage is right in the sight of God, and as long as you are a Christian, you must believe that your husband will be able to cater for you, as his wife. Such belief is a direct faith in God. It is most pleasing to the Holy God that instituted marriage. The bible book of Hebrews 11: verse 6; says; without faith it is impossible to please Him; for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and He rewards those who seek Him.
The wife should be able to see Christ in her husband, working through him to lead her aright.
Right marriage is first time marriage, not a second wife to a man and not a second man to a woman; while the former partner is still alive. The law binds the wife as long as her husband lives, but if her husband be dead; she is at liberty to marry whom she will; only in the LORD – (1st Corinthians 7:39).
From the onset, as long as the woman has accepted the man as her husband, she must dedicate herself to the new family lifestyle. She must learn his language, and culture, etc. Psalm 45: verse 10 & 11; says; Hear, o daughter; consider and incline your ear; forget also your own people, and your father’s house; so shall the king so desire your beauty; for he is your lord; and worship him. Whatever her future plans, aspirations, ambitions, she must learn to discuss it with her husband. And she said unto her husband, I perceived that this is a holy man of God, who passes by us continually. Let us make a little chamber, I beg you, on the wall; set for him there a bed, and a table, and a stool, and a candlestick; and when he comes to us that he shall stay there; 2nd kings 4: verses 9-10.
The Shunamite woman who was hitherto barren got a child by this deed of kindness to a man of God. (2nd kings 4: verse 14-36).
The dedicated wife is being kind to her husband by her commitment. The husband does not know the future, but as the wife agrees in submission to the man; they get prospered. If two shall agree… to ask, of my father… in heaven it shall be done… (Matthew 18:19). Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor (Ecclesiastics 4:9). The dedicated woman is a committed Christian wife. She is a victorious woman. A yielded wife is a true yoke-fellow and that makes her ever beautiful.
PRAYING REMOVES WORRIES;
It makes the woman beautiful and attractive.
Praying always with all prayers and supplication in the spirit and watching there unto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints – (Ephesians 6:18).
Praying removes worries and wrinkles of ugliness from the woman’s face. A praying woman is forever beautiful. She is also a winner. Hence, concerning the parable of a certain widow: In (Luke 18:1); Christ said men (women in this case) ought always to pray and not to faint.
Dear Christian housewife! Your level of prayers will also be the level of your family materially, spiritually, financially, socially, etc. If you want your husband to win a presidential contract, your righteous prayers with love; could do it. Beloved, I wish above all things that thou prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospers (3rd John 2). Therefore, I say, unto you, what things so ever you desire, when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you shall have them – Mark 11:24. The above verses emphasize the power of prayers. Whatever you are able to ask for, concerning yourself and your family that you will have. Perhaps you want salvation, healing and deliverance for your (wicked, stubborn, ignorant, sick and careless) husband or child; if you pray; God will save them. But one thing that could hinder your prayers for them is sin. If you are disobedient; unloving, careless and not dedicated to your husband, your prayers will never bring salvation to him. But if you are obedient, submissive, respectful, loving and caring for him; the owner of his soul will speedily answer your prayers. Whatever you may desire; children, money, peaceful home, you must pray righteously for your family. But seek you first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you – (Matthew 6: verse 33).
HANNAH’S PRAYERS
And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the LORD and wept sore. She vowed and said, O LORD of Host, if you will indeed look upon the affliction of your handmaid and remember me, and not forget your handmaid but will give unto your handmaid a male child, then I will give him to the LORD all the days of his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head- (1st Samuel 1; verses 10-11).
Through this prayer, the hitherto barren Hannah gave birth to a male child whom she called Samuel. More than any other person or thing, your family; especially your husband needs your prayers. The Christian housewife does not complain, she does not murmur, but prays, and believes. A prayerful wife is the backbone of her husband and the entire family. She supports the husband and the whole family with her prayers. She makes the sacrifices for them as they go to work, school, travel, etc.
She is not a busy body, talkative; does not gossip, nor compromises, not a doubter but a believer. The rate of pumping of the blood from the heart; which is the powerhouse or generator of the body, determines the strength of the body and how far it could go, grow and progress. Likewise, the rate of prayer or the amount of praying by the wife determines how far the family will prosper. The wife is therefore advice to be praying for his godly business, job, journeys, properties etc. Pray for the children, their health, studies and salvation. Pray against failures, accident, sickness, attacks ungodly ventures, etc. Pray without ceasing. – 1st Thessalonians 5: 17. The more you pray, the more your power, the less you pray, the lesser your power. If you do not pray at all, there will be failures, powerlessness, oppression, trials, troubles, etc. all over the family. Be careful for nothing but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be made known unto God. (Philippians 4:6).
Do not say your husband is already rich and thus he does not need prayers. The riches could grow wings over-night and fly off. You must pray to preserve the existing wealth. In the like manner you must pray to preserve the life of the living children, the husband, business, etc. Sarah never thought of the outcome and the effect of Abraham going into Haggai. Therefore, be admonished, dear Christian housewife; to avert temptation and unseen evil effects, you need to pray always and for all things. Frets not thy self because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity. Wait on the LORD… wait, I say, on the LORD – (Psalm 37:1, 27:14). There should be a family altar, which must be encouraged by the wife. If the man makes the initiative or if he prays at all, the wife must do everything to encourage him. If she does not pray and he becomes a tyrant, the wife will receive the first blow or whip. Or else; if he is attacked by forces of darkness; or the children get afflicted because of prayerlessness their blood will be upon the head of the nonchalant wife who did not pray. The wife is the caretaker of the home. She must therefore watch and pray for her home. Prayer changes failures to successes, and makes the prayerful woman ever beautiful. The woman is the watchman of the home. She is the one who is also empowered to carry the baby in the womb. Without the woman; the process of reproductions and multiplications in the world by man would have been incomplete. No nation or people without the woman. The woman is specially created with a unique and enough enormous assignments for the creator. The woman is made by the divine wisdom of the creator to help to build the nations from the home zone; and not from the political field or outside the home. Only the woman who has failed at home or that who is not able to have a husband that goes all out to contend against the will of the creator outside.

CHAPTER SIX
FOREVER-BEAUTIFUL WOMAN
The children shall call her “beloved mother’.
She is like the merchants ship – very heavy, strong and filled with precious materials. She neither complains nor murmurs. She is not a bore but a beloved of her husband. She is a keeper of her home and not a killer: A Woman of substances, and a first lady who is full of wisdom. She does not speak vanity. By her conversation the husband and children are made to believe. By her communications her husband’s friends and relatives are converted to Christ.
Her hospitality is excellent and that makes her beautiful. – Cherished by her friends and neighbors.
By her hands many mouths are fed, many bodies are clothed. …And all the widows stood by him weeping, and showing the coats and garments, which Dorcas made while she was alive with them. (Acts 9: verse 39).
She is a daughter of the KING of kings. She gives because she has. She neither begs nor borrows, but she lends; to other homes. – A comforter to her home. – She is “A woman Banabas” or “daughter of consolations”.
Her face and her smiles communicate peace. Her husband is never afraid when coming back home.
She is a woman of many qualities. She is a Possessor of another Spirit – the Spirit of the God of creation. She is creative, innovative, careful, watchful, smart, etc. Six qualities make her a Good Woman and the seventh, a Woman of great Virtue and beauty.
She is a regenerated and reformed wife, who does not doubt the commandment of the LORD. Her faith in the Omnipotent God makes her steadfast.
Her awareness of the omnipresent creator makes her to abide with her husband. Whatever the circumstance she would not wander away from her Lord like EVE did in the Garden of Eden – (Genesis 3:1 to 2).
She recognizes the omniscient power of her maker and would do nothing to encourage her husband to commit adultery like the impatient Sarah. Genesis 16: verse 5; Sar’ai said to Abram, “May the wrong done to me be on you! I gave my maid to your embrace, and when she saw that she had conceived, she looked on me with contempt. May the LORD judge between you and I!”
She is not a hireling that runs away from her husband at the slightest provocation, or treat of poverty, sickness, misfortune, etc.; like Delilah.
The hireling flees because he is a hireling, and cares not for the sheep – (John 10: verses 12 to 13).
And Delilah said to Samson, tell me, I pray thee, wherein thy great strength lies, and wherewith thou might be bound to afflict thee.
She made him sleep upon her knees; and she called for a man, and she caused him to shave off the seven locks of his head; and she began to afflict him, and his strength went from him – (Judges, 16:19)
The Christian housewife would not hide idols in her bosom like Rachel; Jacob’s wife; (Genesis 31:34; Now Rachel had taken the household gods and put them in the camel’s saddle, and sat upon them. Laban felt all about the tent, but did not find them). The Christian housewife would not cheat by her partiality like Rebecca on Esau. Your brother came with subtlety, and has taken away your blessing (Genesis 27:35)
She would not ignorantly insult the God of her husband like Micah – Saul’s daughter did – 2nd Samuel 6: verse 20.
She does not abuse her husband selfishly like Zippo-rah – Moses’ wife. Then Zippo-rah took a sharp stone, and cut off the foreskin of her son, and cast it at his feet, and said, surely a bloody husband art thou to me – Exodus 4:25.
The woman we have been describing is likened to quality feathers (Good wife), which gives a bird; beauty; (her husband); the protection, honor, prosperity and peace.
She is the virtuous woman.
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is above rubies. The heart of her husband does safely trust in her, so that she shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax and works willingly with her hands. She is like the merchant’s ships; she brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is yet night and gives meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considers a field, and buys it with the fruit of her hands she planted a vineyard. She guides her lions with strength; and strengthens her arms… she looks well to the ways of her household, and she eats not the bread of idleness…
Such is the dedicated wife, one who is not lazy, not slothful but diligent and committed. She performs her domestic duties and as well seeks the promotion of her family. Give her the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates – (Proverbs 31: verses 10 to 31).
The story of Ruth in the bible is an example of a dedicated or committed Christian housewife. Such is an ever-beautiful woman that is a truly and totally married woman. Ruth was an example of a true CHRISTIAN; really born again. She was not mindful of the country she came from. Ruth said, entreat me not to live you; or to return from following after you (Ruth 1: verses 16 to 17). Let me now go to the field and glean ears of corn after him in whose sight I shall find grace… – Ruth 2:2.
A true Christian does not consider the past pleasures of the world when trials and persecutions or hardship come. Retrospection in such a manner into the dark past is a sign of backsliding already in the heart. He that put his hand on the plough and looks back is not fit for the kingdom of God – (Luke 9:62). Any wife who always remembers her old pleasurable lifestyle when a quarrel erupts in her marriage is just an adulteress; – a fair weather wife; or a hireling. And that makes her ugly and a hindrance to the progress of her husband. That is why God was always angry with the children of Israel; because they were constantly remembering the cucumbers and melons of Egypt whenever they encounter trials.
THE TRANSFORMER
Let your light so shine before men. Matthew. 5:16
The Beauty of the worthy mother – wife, woman and bride is the transformed condition of her heart: the peace and joy, honor and prosperity accruing to her home.
A wealthy and influential woman of age over 50 years came to me for counseling. She complained that her husband is no longer admiring her beauty. She enumerated all the physical things she had done for the man since they wedded. I counseled to go and read 1st Corinthians chapter thirteen and practice it.
A woman should realize that her beauty that would ever radiate before a husband is a heart filled with godly love.
Why should a husband suddenly begin to despise a wife he has loved for over twenty years? Is it not that he cannot any more accommodate her pride – harsh and stubborn spirit? The truth is that he was attracted by her wealth and appearance; initially. Afterwards he had expected her to be transformed and begin to exhibit the real beauty. As the word of God says; when hope is dead and faith is dead, only charity will remain. But where there had been no charity, nothing is left or seen except nakedness and ugly.
Now you should examine your heart: Are you teachable? Do you forgive an offender easily? Are you not too harsh, unaccommodating and impatient? Are you truly peace loving, faithful and trusting in God’s ability? Your answers to the above questions have a lot to tell about your present personality, interactions and relationships with the world.
Do you know that a little sad countenance makes you look like the lower animals? An angry face usually scares everyone. Even the bible says, “Do not walk with an angry person”. You cannot be attractive to any being if you are not right with God. If your heart is truly transformed and filled with love: your husband will love you and admires your beauty forever without your advertising it. Your life will be progressive and attractive. Your family will prosper and your community or society will be peaceful.
We desire a progressive and peaceful society. When you build the man you build the community. The wife is the only person that can transform the man, being a part of him.
We seldom hear statements like “good father or sweet father”, but we often hear “sweet mothers”, good mothers; etc.
Goodness is a thing of the heart and mind. – Not the physical but the spiritual nature of man. No one is good except the spirit of God in him or her. When one is good, he or she begins to attract good things also. If you are good your prayers will receive answers with ease. The hands of God will be outstretched to you. His ears will be open unto you, because your obedience has been fulfilled.
The woman who has the ability to transform the man is the one that possesses the Spirit of the Holy God. In other words she has allowed a new nature to come upon her; and now she is said to be a born-again child of God. When the old nature (Adam’s nature of disobedience, stubbornness, hatred, envy, quarrelling, etc.), passes out of you, then you are regenerated or transformed into a new creature – the virtuous woman.
The woman must be transformed in heart to become beautiful exteriorly and a transformer to her home. It is only the truly transformed woman that can affect the world around her. The transformer helps generates power for lights to its environment. Like earlier mentioned; the duties or conducts of the wife are not meant to relegate the woman to the background, neither are they to confine her to home keeping only; they make her virtuous ultimately.
Humility
The scriptures say you shall know the truth and be made free. The truth is; only the transformed heart that can be humble. Since we can do nothing against the truth, but for the truth, I therefore admonish, cancel and warn you that: You examine yourselves, whether you are in the faith – (2nd Corinthians 13: verses 8 and then 5). If your HEART is still married to your husband you should know except you have become hardened in your heart (Matthew 19:8). A backsliding Christian knows himself also. Every wife would like to be honored. Before honor is humility. Only pride comes before a fall. Humility is a beautiful virtue. When the woman humbles herself, her beauty becomes noticeable and then she is able to shine fort as the light she is made to be.
THE GRACE TO LOVE
This grace is only available to the transformed person. To some women, all that is said above that would enhance their beauty are easier said than done. But to you who will learn, they are for your own good. `They are the things the man or husband would like you to do and they will bring peace to your home, fatness to your bones, and brightness to your face, and prosperity to your business. These virtues are easy to manifest if you believe; just as you believed to be born again. And of course you cannot cooperate without the spirit of Christ in you. In other words the natural man (woman) cannot do them, for the unregenerate heart is not accustomed to doing good things. The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked: who can know it? – (Jeremiah 17:9). Out of the heart proceed evil thought murders, adulteries, fornication, thefts, false witness, and blasphemies – (Matthew 12:19). But you can be transformed in your hearts and then you become able to transform the things and persons around you. As long as you retain your good character, you will be beautiful and your home and your life will be peaceful.
REPENTANCE:
Repentance is what makes one a transformer.
Repent therefore and be converted; Acts 3: verse 16
The first step to repentance is that one acknowledges that he or she is a sinner. Romans 3: verse 23; says; all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. As it is written, there is none righteous, no not one; – (Romans 3: verse 10). This sinful nature has placed humans under a curse, but God loves us and has made a provision for us to live in freedom. God commanded his love towards us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. For the wages of sin is death: but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord – (Romans 5: verse 8; 6: verse 23).
The curse of sin can only be broken man repents from wickedness. The effects of curses from sin include: retrogression, barrenness, etc. Whoever you maybe; Evangelist, Mrs. World, or Pastor Mrs. Princess; or Mummy of Universal Churches; sin can spoil your beauty and glory as well as hinder your prayers and usefulness to God and maybe mankind. The Lord’s hand is not shortened nor His ears heavy that He cannot help. But your sins (pride, ignorance, and misuse of tongues, oppression of the less-privileged, etc.), are your curses; (Isaiah 59: verses 1-3; – personal paraphrase). When you confess your sins, turn your back to these sinful ways, and then receive Christ as your Lord and personal savior, your life will become beautiful.
Pray like this: Wash me through from mine iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin. I acknowledge my transgressions and my sin is ever before me. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me – Psalm 51.
And as you do these things believe by faith that God has answered you and that Christ is indwelling in you, in spirit. Believe that you are now a child of God and that your sins are forgiven you. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us of all unrighteousness; – 1st John 1:9.
As many as receive Him to them He gave the power to become the sons of God, even to those who believe on his name; – John 1:2.
Now as a child of God, you will be able to live according to His will, even as stated above. You shall be able to cooperate, obey, submit, pray for, love, care for, and cheer up, and agree with, your husband, henceforth, only by the GRACE OF GOD. No matter how tough and rigid your husband may be, if you learn to take his heart to the presence of God; he becomes flexible and bendable. You can only please a man if the Holy Ghost personally controls you and also when the spirit of God controls him. The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water he turns it wherever he will: (Proverbs 21:2).

CHAPTER SEVEN
HOW TO WIN A HUSBAND
As a spinster your beauty lies mostly in your character as defined in CHARITY –
Your chastity: The young lady must be charming and courteous, humble, attractive, respectful, intelligent, truthful, and yearning for the best, to be able to win a good husband.
HOW TO RETAIN YOUR HUSBAND
As a woman your beauty lies entirely in your character as defined in CHARITY. The woman must be a companion – a hospitable, active, responsible, interacting, and tactful yoke-fellow to be ever beautiful before her husband.
HOW TO BE A VICTORIOUS CHRISTIAN
As a bride of Christ your glory is in your purity as defined in CHARITY.
The true Christian must be committed, holy, affectionate, righteous, interesting, and truthful and yielded to Christ’s work to be triumphant.
THE CHRISTIAN AND CHRIST
The bible book of Ephesians 5: verse 32; says;. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. ‘The church’; are the called out people; or children of the Holy God who made the Heavens and Earth.
Psalm 130: verse 14; says the Christians are those who are fearfully and wonderfully made by God; they are married to Christ. They are very beautiful. You are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, – and a peculiar people, that you should show forth the praises of him who has called you out of darkness into His marvelous light – (1st Peter 2:9).
The “house-wife” is a type of Christian. Her conduct is the Christian life style.
The believer is married to Christ just as a wife is to a husband. The born again child of God is expected to cooperatively preach Christ, obediently do His will (love others and His WORD), be dedicated to the duty of evangelism, pray ceaselessly for the work and submit lovingly to all ordinances of the creator. And heaven should be His ultimate goal, and desires. The bible says that they were not mindful of the country they came from. If not, they would have returned; – (Hebrews 11:15).
Ruth was blessed with Christ via O’bed, because she fully and truly followed Naomi. But Rachel died when she was giving birth to her second son. She wanted to return she hid idols of remembrance in her bosom.
In GENESIS 31:35; she said to her father, “Let not my lord be angry that I cannot rise before you, for the way of women is upon me.” So he searched, but did not find the household gods. Many women are dying or will die or have died because of this altitude of carrying their father’s idols (the world and her system) into their marriages. Many Christians are likewise unprogressive, because they have not totally forsaken the world.
Thou therefore endure hardness as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. (2nd Timothy 2: verse 3). Yes, the committed Christian must endure. God hates murmuring and complaining but He loves holiness or perfection.
Just as the incompetent workman blames his tools, only the unworthy wife blames her husband. No matter what he has done, past or present, forgive him, still love him, and this shall be seen as your beauty.
When you learn to forgive and forget his mistakes and shortcomings; you will discover that he is not the problem you have. The Holy Spirit of God will reveal the secrets for peace to you when you ask from him.
A Christian that does not pray is powerless.
A disobedient Christian is cursed like the witch. A Christian without a loving heart remains poor and wanting all the days of his life. But the cooperating, submissive, committed, obedient, prayerful, caring, cheerful, and loving Christian is beautiful. He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of waters, which does not wither; (Psalm 1: verses 1 to 3). He shall prosper because of the presence of the Spirit of God (the beauty of holiness) within him.
The sun shall no more go down neither shall thy moon withdraw itself, for the LORD shall be thy everlasting light and the days of your mourning shall be ended. (Isaiah 60:20). And I will betroth thee unto me forever; yea, I will betroth thee in righteousness, and in judgment, and in loving-kindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shall know the LORD. (Hosea 2: verse 19 & 20). For thy maker is thy husband; the Lord of host is His name; and thy redeemer the holy one of Israel; the God of the whole earth shall He be called. For the Lord has called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a wife of youth, when you were refused, says thy God; – Isaiah 54: verse 5-6.
Therefore, be a bride of Christ.
But as He who has called you is holy, so be holy in all manner of conversation. 1st Peter 1:15; Be steadfast, unmovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord for as much you know that your labor is not in vain in the Lord – 1st Corinthians 15:58.
COUNSEL FOR THE ADOLESCENTS
Your-self; your father, your mother; teachers; friends; environment, and enemies are all God’s instruments to make you forever beautiful. Your attitude towards these agents of transformations will determine your future attractiveness and acceptability. If you love corrections, life will give you little or no problems. But, if you hate rebuke, every forces of life will be against you. Do not despise instructions; allow everyone, everything and even your enemy to correct you when you go wrong. If your desire is to become a forever-beautiful woman, now is the time to start preparing yourself as a girl. You have to cooperate with God and all that He wishes to use to clean you up. Now you have to learn good companionship and hospitality. You mother must have taught you how to clean the home and your body. Your father must have taught you courtesy and humility. You have to be committed to every good duty that you know. You must be very careful when making friends. Do not allow yourself to be enticed into indecent environment or relationship. Learn to actively love and forgive everyone plus your enemy. Above all, you must allow the fear of God to rule over all your affairs of life. Proverbs 9:10; says; “The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom”.
May the Holy Spirit richly bless His Word in your hearts, in Jesus name; Amen.
Please say these prayers:
LORD, my maker, I thank you for bringing this message to me. Grant to me the grace to be able to do what your Holy Spirit has taught me through the reading of this book. I accept every life giving word in it. I reject every human and destructive word in it. I believe that I shall be able to live according to your will henceforth. Baptize me with Your Holy Spirit, in Jesus name. Amen
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